Expectations

Today is the last day of the “love month” and I can’t help but to reminisce, as if in this month many things had made me realize… had conversations with my friends, and I can’t help but to think about it… I can’t ignore it. hehehe

One of things I discussed with a good friend was about “expectations”. She asked me if:

“Is it normal to feel jealous when one of your friends will not confide or tell you a secret but instead confide it with your other friends?” “If that’s the case, maybe they should not make you feel that you don’t know something?” “Maybe I’m expecting too much?’

At first, I don’t know what to say… I’ve been through that situation, and still struggling with that feeling. But, as if I’m expert in giving advice, I told her “its normal to feel that way, for I also felt that way but I’ve learned that there is no way but to accept that sometimes other people will not confide to you everything. Don’t expect them to value you as you have valued them. In short, don’t expect that much, for it will only make you sad, miserable and jealous. Lower your expectations. Another way is to share your expectations, you may tell them what you feel when they’re doing that.”

I can’t believe that I told her that, but as I look back, I can say that I had managed to do that -“lower your expectations”. I’ve also learned how to react when you’re expectations are not met.